Let me start by saying that you do not need to have a small penis to enjoy small penis humiliation (SPH) as a fetish. In my experience, the actual size didn’t really bear much relation to the humiliation I was dishing out.
Long, small, short, thin – a penis is a penis and I personally find them both a joy and a distraction in all their shapes and sizes.
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But sometimes, I was employed to judge, critique and berate someone for their todger. I would humiliate a quivering submissive at my feet for as long as I’d been paid to, whether they were hung like a horse or a hamster.
Basically, this bears no relation to a man’s size. It is, as ever, just fun, sexy, consensual role-play and a hearty favourite of mine.
How small is ‘small’?
The term itself is, in my opinion, a bit of a misnomer. It’s more about humiliating and judging the submissive on his ability to please woman.
I had clients who genuinely had a micro-penis – less than 1” flacid, maybe about 3.5” hard – as well as men of average size.
One of my first SPH clients just wanted to feel awkward and humiliated, so we did a role-play where I was a nurse in a sperm clinic, and he was being tested a potential donor.
I quietly measured, weighed, and wrote notes about his tiny todger.
To amp up the awkward levels, there were just times where he was standing naked, measuring tape around his member, and I’d just grimace and quietly shake my head with a sigh. Then look into his eyes as I say the coup de grace: ‘Nevermind’
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‘My penis is too small to please my girlfriend, so she needs a bigger man to please her’ would often be the sentiment of my submissive SPH clients.
Many men wanted to be told that as they were too pathetic to please anyone, they were going to have to make themselves useful in other ways – which could be anything from some canny cunnilingus to being a human toilet.
‘I’m frustrated by the size, but love it when a girl bullies me about it’.
That’s a client’s words, not mine.
I’m no fan of toxic masculinity telling men their penis size matters, but I am a fan of playing out someone’s fantasy of being the big bully and telling them they have an acorn-cock.
One chap was so into being shamed, he would send me pictures of his pint-sized pecker next to various objects to ‘send to my friends’.
Small penis humiliation was often a conduit to other kinky activities – a way to get to cuckoldry, chastity or even watersports. The submissive wanted to be used for anything other than penetrative sex, and wanted to please his Mistress in other ways.
Fortunately I’m a professional, so I’m more than happy to let anyone of any size spend an hour with their head between my legs.
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